Oh and newsflash, everyone you meet during new student orientation won’t be in your wedding either.
It’s been awhile. Today’s post is a little different, but it’s one I’ve always wanted to write and things I’ve always wanted to share.
Basically, there’s this newfound idea slash social media craze that you HAVE to love college because college is SO FUN and you always look SO CUTE and have SO MANY FRIENDS. You think that your dorm has to be perfect, that you must have at least 12 friends by the second day of class, and that you have to, without a doubt, post 135 snaps a day of you and all your new friends, to prove to your old high school friends that you “have friends” and you “love your school” and your life is now “perfect.”
I say all this because I was all this. I was that girl. And that girl’s not who I actually am.
Let me just tell you, I was miserable. College is not all it’s cracked up to be & people are mean. Classes are hard. Papers are endless. Professors are annoying. Being responsible and disciplined doesn’t come naturally, and the list goes on and on.
College is hard. It’s not all perfect room decor, perfect friend groups, and perfect hair & outfits, with your perfect cup of coffee in your hand in a perfect little hipster coffee shop.
It’s bad hair days, sleepless nights, panic attacks waiting to happen, and always remembering what you forgot to do the night before, once it’s already too late.
DO NOT GO INTO IT THINKING IT’LL BE SOME CUTE LITTLE EXPERIENCE THAT’LL MAKE ONE GREAT INSTA POST.
And if you find yourself in that position currently, just stop. It doesn’t have to be like that.
be yourself; be comfortable with who you are and where you’re at in life.
So Yes, college can be fun and there were many days for me that were fun, but it’s not some magical place that people make it out to be. It’s hard work & dedication, and lots of money… like lots.
So if college is for you, GREAT. Then it is for you! So have the time of your life, get involved, do crazy things, and be who you are.
Even if you don’t love it but it’s something you feel like you have to do, is necessary for your career choice, or is just simply an accomplishment you want to make, then stick it out. But do so in a way where you know who you are and who you want to be.
But if it’s not for you, and all you find yourself doing is trying to fit in, trying to make sure you look cool on insta cause “college”, trying to prove something to literally anyone who’s listening, trying to be someone you’re not, and telling yourself you love college when really you hate it, FIND WHAT YOU LOVE & DO THAT.
I 100% believe college isn’t for everyone, and if you feel like you’re not in the right place… you probably aren’t.
To wrap it all up,
If you feel like I did; like you gotta keep up with all the other “cool kids” you graduated with, who seem to be having the time of their lives at college, or like you gotta get that pic for the gram and make sure you have at least a million best friends in every pic, take a step back and ask yourself what am I doing and who am I trying to impress? Realize that that’s not you, that maybe you actually hate college, and that you need to stop fooling yourself.
Because of my experience in school, I discovered who I truly am, once I stopped pretending to be who I thought I had to be in order to fit in.
And I couldn’t be happier with where I’m at in life, with what I’m doing, but I would’ve never discovered this about myself if I hadn’t finally just stopped fooling myself and everyone else; I was only making it seem like to literally everyone around me, inluding myself, that I LOVED college cause that’s just what you have to do, right?
“To remember who you are, you need to forget who they told you to be.”