This is something that is near and dear to my heart. It is something I’ve always strived towards and is something I believe you must continually strive towards.
Modesty doesn’t only refer to your outward appearance, how you dress, but also refers to who you are as a person, how you act, and what your life points to. There are 2 things your life can point to, it can point to yourself, or to God. Your choice.
I was reading a “Bible Plan” on the Bible App titled: Modesty, where I found some helpful insights and truths that only furthered my desire to write this blog post to you.
I came across this line, “The purpose of modesty is holiness. God created us to be holy, meaning we are to be set apart from everything that is opposite His truth.” We are called to be set apart. To be different. In how we act, talk, respond, DRESS, live, think, the whole 9 yards.
Set apart… It doesn’t say live your life for the Lord, pleasing Him in every aspect except for in how you dress, dress however you want and just follow all those trends, girl! The deeper the slit, the better! The tighter the dress, the better! Shortest shorts you can find? Buy em in every color! It’s what everyone else is doing!
This next line that I read in the plan might put things into perspective for you:
“One of the biggest hindrances to holiness is our self. We begin to focus on what we want, how we need to feel, and how we want to be viewed by others. We dress in a way that allows us to achieve these necessary wants and feelings. We loose the fact that life is not about us but about God.”
It’s not about us. It’s about God.
Our life was given to us as a gift from the Lord, the least we can do is to live in a manner that is holy and pleasing to Him (WHICH encompasses all aspects of your life, down to how you dress).
I mean after all, if it weren’t for Him you wouldn’t be alive.
Romans 12:1-2 NIV:
1Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV:
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
So, I’ve said all that to say to you, sisters in Christ,
It DOES matter what you wear and how you act.
Clothes and outward appearance are not where we gain our true significance or beauty, so do not feel like “Well, if I don’t wear that or dress like them, I won’t be considered beautiful. No one will notice me. I won’t fit in. Those kinds of girls get the guys!!”
If your identity is rooted in Christ, that is where your true beauty comes from, and let me tell you, you ARE noticed, considered beautiful, and already have the attention of the One True King.
Now let’s be clear, I am ALL for the beauty industry; I LOVE makeup (heck, it’s my profession), I LOVE clothes and shopping! I love all that! I love creating cute outfits and expressing myself through my own style, but that said style MUST dwell within God’s will and plan for my life, because that is the path I have chosen, I have chosen to live for the Lord. You cannot compromise that aspect of your life, to fit in, to seem like everyone else, to stay hip with the trends; If you choose to do that, it is no longer about God, and is now about you.
So what are we to do?
Well, you don’t want to seem like the odd-one-out. You want to capture the guy’s attention. You want to fit in. You want to feel beautiful, dare I say it, you want to be considered hot & sexy; You want to feel like you’re worth someone’s time.
Those are all valid reasons, and I understand your need for attention. BUT have you ever thought about why you always attract thooose kinds of boys? The ones who don’t stick around? Why you can’t see yourself marrying that “man?” Why you constantly feel like you’re fighting for his attention? Why does he seem like such a “you know what” I thought he was the one?! Does he not realize I’m saving myself for marriage, why is he so adamant on doing these things?!
Well honey, you’re attracting the wrong kind of boy, men, guys, however you want to put it, because you’re selling yourself short to capture his attention. You’re grabbing his attention for all the wrong reasons, of course he wants to be with you, he thinks you’re like thaaat.
PSA to all girls:
You do NOT have to show off your body & give up everything you are and everything you have, to be accepted by some boy, or to finally feel wanted by someone.
The right one, someone who is actually worth your time and someone you can count on as husband one day, someone who is praying for you and might not even know you yet, someone who is dying to find a girl who puts her relationship with Christ first and lives, dresses, speaks, acts in a way that points people to Christ. That someone will come into your life and want you for more than just your body & for your looks;
He’ll want you for more than just how low your top is cut, for how you look in a swimsuit, how tight your clothes are, how short your shorts are, etc.
So put some clothes on. Have some self-respect & dignity, not to mention decency.
I’m tired of the way “women” dress these days. What’s happened to “fashion” these days? Do you think your grandma got your grandpa by dressing like that?
You do NOT have to sacrifice your own body and put yourself out there in a way to only attract the attention of others, just to make you feel accepted and wanted.
You will be accepted and wanted by the right person for all the right reasons, for more than just your appearance and body: He will love you for your heart, for how you love unconditionally, for your willpower, for your forgiveness, for your strength, for your compassion & empathy, for your selflessness, for your character, for your intelligence, for your kindness, for your desire to be modest and to save yourself for marriage. He will love you for you who you are, down to your very core.
He will love you for you & that’s the kind of person worth attracting.
And above all else, you’ve already captured the attention of the Savior of the world.